The addition of a new child to a family
is a
wonderous occasion! An adopted baby is just as much a miracle as any
other and should be celebrated as such.
And all babies need “stuff”, even an adopted
child, so having an adoption baby shower for this child is not only
acceptable, but necessary.
There are some differences you should consider
when attempting to plan this a baby shower for adoption. You will need
to know the age of the adopted child first of all. Some couples may
have adopted a baby, but others may have adopted a toddler or older
child.
You will also want to find out if the family wants
to celebrate the baby shower for adoption before or after the
baby/child is adopted.
For infants, the 
basic necessities, such as diapers,
clothing, feeding items, and nursery
décor are appropriate for adoption baby showers. The
parents-to-be of an adopted baby/child should register for baby shower
gifts just the same as any other parents.
Though it is rare, some adoptive mothers are able
to breastfeed their infants, so you should take care to find out what
this mom-to-be will be doing. If she will be bottle feeding the baby,
gifts of baby formula will be helpful, though you may want to wait to
find out what type of formula she will be using, since there are so
many.
Some families choose to acknowledge the adopted
baby’s birth mother in some way. In some cases, they have formed a
close bond with the birth mother and may choose to include her in the
adoption baby shower festivities.
Or they may want to give the birth
mother a gift. Discuss with the parents (tactfully, since it
is a delicate subject) if this is their wish. Then consider asking
guests to bring a gift to the adoption baby shower for the birth
mother.
Because this baby is adopted and the mom-to-be is
not pregnant, stay away from any maternity-type games at the adoption
baby shower, like “how big is Mom’s tummy” or any other such games. You
can however, play games
to guess the baby’s sex or birth date (if they have not yet
been born) for adoption baby showers.
It is important to know the age of the child being
adopted in order to know what types of baby shower gifts to purchase.
Buying rattles and baby booties for a 3 year-old is not helpful to Mom
and Dad!
Parents can still register for an older child at
any retailer that has a baby
registry for the baby shower. Make sure you have an idea of
not only the child’s age, but also what size clothing they wear.
For families adopting an older child, a fun idea
is to have a “welcome” party for the child after he or she comes home.
Find out the child’s sex, age and what toys or types of entertainment
they like.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Randy is owner of http://www.planning-a-baby-shower.com
where you will find further tips on baby
showers and baby
shower games.